9 participants already registered, a few more spots are still left!
Source: What does our inner voice sound like? – Compass Orientation Services
Self-talk and the intensity with which it impacts emotions will vary greatly.
Self-talk is so subtle that it is pretty much automatic and thus, its impact on emotions and behaviour, is largely unconscious.
Anxious self-talk is based on the premise that there is potential threat, and this perpetuates avoidance, which only further reinforces anxious self-talk. Thus, avoidance is anxiety’s best friend. Examples of anxious self-talk: Oh no…I made another mistake, what will my boss think? what is I get fired, what am I gonna do if I lose my job!? Here we see how making a mistake has been interpreted as a potential threat.
There are a variety of techniques to help reduce and better manage anxious self-talk. Continue reading
Source: Rewrite Your Life | Psychology Today
Story Editing to Prevent a Downward Spiral
From writing down your experiences to reframing your perspective, myriad techniques can help you transcend painful setbacks and reshape your own story.
by Susan Gregory Thomas
My oldest daughter was usually quiet and exhausted on the hour-long ride home from seventh grade. Not this day. She slammed the car door shut and spat that a classmate had been “incredibly rude” to her. She veered into a rant on hypocritical teachers and finally inventoried the despicable qualities of nearly every girl in her class.
I asked her what was really going on, and she answered truthfully: For the past six months, my daughter, who is mixed-race, had been viciously bullied in racist attacks by girls at her Philadelphia school, often in classrooms, while teachers seemingly took no notice.
I pulled over and began calling every teacher and administrator involved. They would hear every detail of my daughter’s story, and then this story was going to end because she needed to know that it was over. Continue reading
Source: Here’s how to get into the coloring habit – The Washington Post
Using coloring books to help relieve stress “is like learning a new habit,” says Craig Sawchuk, a clinical psychologist at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minn. “New habits are best learned when you set aside routine time each day to focus,” he says. Sawchuk offered a few tips on how to get into the habit of coloring and to make the most of your time once you do.
1 out of 5 Canadians will suffer from some form of mental health issue in the span of a year. There is help, we don’t have to suffer alone … ask for help.
Tune in to CJAD 800AM radio station tonight (around Montreal,QC) at 10pm for an interview with our own Ivan Rubio (psychotherapist and counselor at PAE and Optima Santé Globale Inc., and founder of Compass Orientation Services) who specializes on the topics of anxiety, depression and self-esteem.
He is the host at many of our upcoming mental health events/workshops and will explain more about those as well 🙂
I have known Ivan Rubio, as a friend and colleague, for almost 10 years and his dedication and passion for mental health are beyond imaginable!
Check out his facebook business page below. His website is coming up very soon!
This unique workshop will teach us how to manage everyday anxieties to increase our well-being and help us uncover blind spots that are holding us all back in the important aspects of our life! Come take advantage of this opportunity at a significantly reduced cost, and learn to use the cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) approach that therapists use to reduce and control anxiety.
Ivan Rubio, a psychotherapist, counselor at PAE and Optima Santé Globale Inc. and founder of Compass Orientation Services, will guide this workshop.
Number of participants: 10-25.
Healthy refreshments will be served.
A private psychotherapy session (worth 100$) will be drawn among attendants!
“Expanding our comfort zone & enjoying life. Learning various behavioral and cognitive techniques proven to help reduce anxiety.”
See you there 🙂
REGISTER HERE: https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/workshop-understand-overcome-your-anxiety-tickets-24934345298
Source: 18 Behaviors of Emotionally Intelligent People – Motto
When emotional intelligence (EQ) first appeared to the masses, it served as the missing link in a peculiar finding: people with average IQs outperform those with the highest IQs 70 percent of the time. This anomaly threw a massive wrench into the broadly held assumption that IQ was the sole source of success.
Decades of research now point to emotional intelligence as being the critical factor that sets star performers apart from the rest of the pack. The connection is so strong that 90 percent of top performers have high emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions to achieve positive results. Continue reading
Source: How Healthy are Your Defense Mechanisms? | Psychology Today
Freud may not have been right about everything but he certainly knew his defense mechanisms. His belief that we need defense mechanisms to protect ourselves from knowing just how much we are possessed by sexual and aggressive drives is now generally refuted. However, there is still relatively widespread acceptance that defense mechanisms serve an adaptive purpose. Having a healthy set of defense mechanisms can help you keep in check your anxiety, frustrations, feelings of low self-esteem, and despair over the losses that life occasionally deals you.
One research team in particular seeks to discover the hidden truth behind our tendencies to hide the truth from ourselves. Psychiatrist George Vaillant, who heads up the Study of Adult Development at Harvard University, discovered a number of years ago that the key to psychological health in adulthood is the use of what he calls “mature” defense mechanisms. His taxonomy of defense mechanisms became the basis for American psychiatry’s classification of personality disorders ranging from the “acting out” and dramatic cluster (antisocial and borderline personality disorders) to the more restrained cluster in which people’s pathology is less overtly expressed (schizoid and paranoid). Continue reading
Source: 6 Ways to Become More Likely to Succeed | Psychology Today
Imagine this scenario: You’re about to give a big presentation. There’s an eager audience waiting to hear what you have to say. You believe in your idea and you know that this opportunity could lead to bigger and better things for you. If you were facing this scenario, what mindset would you likely be in? What thoughts would be running through your head? Would you be focused on a plan for success, or on hopes of avoiding failure?
There’s a big difference.
If you were focused on success, you might think about how you’ll deliver your presentation in a way that will resonate best with the audience. If, however, you were focused on avoiding failure, you might only be thinking about how to survive your presentation without embarrassing yourself. Continue reading
Source: Being socially active may boost late-life satisfaction and ease decline – Medical News Today
Well-being at the end of life often declines steeply, with significant differences among individuals that are poorly understood, say researchers who show that staying active socially – despite health challenges – appears to lessen and delay the onset of late-life decline.
The study shows that being socially active and having social goals were linked to higher well-being or life-satisfaction late in life.
The study – published in Psychology and Aging – was led by Dr. Denis Gerstorf, of Humboldt University in Berlin. His colleagues include members of Arizona State University and other research centers in the US and Germany. Dr. Gerstorf notes:
“Our results indicate that living a socially active life and prioritizing social goals are associated with higher late-life satisfaction and less severe declines toward the end of life.” Continue reading
Source: Finding “The One” Is Overrated: Emotionships Matter More | Psychology Today
One and done—that’s how some people think about their relationships. Find “The One” and now you have mastered your relationship challenges. In your spouse you have the person who fulfills all of your wishes and needs, especially your emotional needs. You have the person who cheers you up when you are sad, calms you when you are anxious or angry, and cheers you on when things are going well. Popular songs romanticize the idea with lyrics such as “you are my everything” and “I just want to be your everything.”
Ever since I started writing about single life, I have questioned the wisdom of this. (Okay, so I made fun of it, calling people who are expected to be another person’s everything SEEPIES, “Sex and Everything Else Partners (link is external).”) I’ve often asked whether this sort of intensive coupling has its risks.
Now a series of soon-to-be-published studies shows the power of The Ones over The One. What is powerful, what seems to be linked to greater satisfaction with your life, is having different people to help you with different emotions. These are “emotionships” rather than relationships. Continue reading
Source: The 7 Characteristics of Emotionally Strong People | Psychology Today
Emotionally strong people manage the stresses of daily life more effectively, and recover more quickly from challenges and crises when they arise. Since emotional strength refers to a person’s internal coping abilities, can we accurately judge a person’s internal fortitude based on what we see on the outside?
Popular culture often portrays emotionally strong people as quiet, stoic types who never complain and whose emotional expression during crises is limited to jaw-squaring, fist-clenching, and silent dramatic stares into the horizon. Any signs of emotional ‘leakage’ (i.e., expressing emotional distress in any way) or tears (especially in men), is often viewed as evidence the person has difficulties coping and is emotionally weak. Continue reading
Source: Real People Talk About Therapy | Psychology Today
“Therapy has so often gotten a bad rap,” says Silvina Irwin, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist in the Los Angeles area. “We have a society that overly values ‘pulling yourself up [by] the bootstraps.’ A common fear is that to seek help is to admit that you are weak, or that you will be perceived as being weak.” And, of course, it can be intimidating to think about discussing your most intimate struggles with someone you don’t know. Still, says Irwin, when people are able to overcome fears about therapy, the benefits can be profound.
To demystify the idea of talk therapy, I spoke with people around the country who were willing to share how it has helped them. Here’s what they had to say:
“The best part was hearing, ‘This is totally normal. You are totally normal.'”
Source: What Mentally Strong People Do When Things Go Wrong | Psychology Today
Explanations and excuses are not the same thing. It is rare to hear someone say, “Sorry I’m late. I should have left my house sooner.” You will much more likely hear, “Sorry to keep you waiting but traffic was terrible,” or, “I would have been on time, but I had to stop at the store and it was really busy.”
There is a critical difference between an explanation and an excuse: An explanation accepts full responsibility for a mistake. An excuse places blame, minimizes liability, and tries to avoid consequences.
Explanations are pivotal to repairing your relationships and learning from your mistakes. Excuses, on the other hand, hold you back. Trying to convince others—or even yourself—why your shortcomings are justified can be self-destructive. Despite the problems associated with excuses, for many people they have become commonplace. Continue reading
Source: 9 Signs Your Child Has Entitlement Issues | Psychology Today
Most of us have watched as the youngster—your child or a friend or relative’s child—tears into her gifts. She sees what is in one package and quickly moves on to the next. A parent stands by reminding her to say “thank you,” often fruitlessly. Feeling somewhat helpless, the parent herself comments on how special the gift is, just what her son or daughter wanted.
The birthday party, particularly the “over the top” extravaganza, is only one way parents indulge their children and cultivate their sense of entitlement. We delight in seeing our children’s faces light up when they receive exactly what they want, when we drop whatever we are doing to drive to someplace they have to be “right now!” or when we agree to finish their school project so they can get a good night’s sleep. Continue reading
Source: A Third of Adults Lack Regular, Refreshing Sleep
One of every three Americans doesn’t get enough sleep on a regular basis, a new study from the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention says.
About 35 percent of U.S. adults are sleeping less than seven hours a night, increasing their risk of a wide variety of health problems, CDC researchers reported on Feb. 18 in the agency’s Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report.
Getting less than seven hours of sleep a night has been associated with increased risk of obesity, type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease, stroke, frequent mental distress and death, the study authors said. Continue reading
Source: Immersive virtual reality helps patients with depression – Medical News Today
Virtual reality therapy could help treat depression by encouraging people to be easier on themselves and improve their chances of breaking the cycle of depression, says a new study published in the British Journal of Psychiatry Open.
A virtual reality scenario could help patients to feel better about themselves.
In 2014, 6.6% of American adults experienced at least one bout of major depression.
The National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) defines depression as a “period of 2 weeks or longer during which there is either depressed mood or loss of interest or pleasure and at least four other symptoms that reflect a change in functioning, such as problems with sleep, eating, energy, concentration and self-image.” Continue reading
Source: 6 Steps to Confronting Passive-Aggressive Behavior | Psychology Today
Do you know someone who is overtly cooperative but covertly defiant? Do you live or work with a person who chronically procrastinates, carries out tasks with intentional inefficiency, or acts as if he or she is the victim of your impossibly high standards? If you know this feeling of being on an emotional roller coaster, chances are good that you are dealing with a passive-aggressive (link is external) person.
Passive aggression is a deliberate and masked way of expressing covert feelings of anger (Long, Long & Whitson, 2009). It involves a variety of behaviors designed to get back at another person without the other recognizing the underlying anger. In the long run, passive-aggressive behavior can be even more destructive to relationships than aggression. Over time, relationships with a person who is passive-aggressive will become confusing, discouraging, and dysfunctional. Continue reading
Source: Recommendation: Screen Teens for Major Depression
Experts add that more research is needed to determine whether kids under 12 should also be tested.
Primary care doctors should screen all patients between 12 and 18 years of age for major depression, but not younger children, preventive health experts say.
Screening of adolescents needs to be accompanied by accurate diagnosis, effective treatment and appropriate follow-up, the U.S. Preventive Services Task Force (USPSTF) said in a final recommendation released Monday. Continue reading
Source: The Price of Loving Someone Narcissistic or Borderline | Psychology Today
In my clinical experience, I have found that having a relationship with someone who has severe narcissistic or borderline personality disorder often leads to one of the most upsetting relationship experiences a person can have. In short, the closer you are to someone with one of these personalities, the worse the emotionally injury. Whether it’s a romantic relationship, a parent and child, or close friends, the experience can take a toll.
It can break your heart and shatter it to pieces.
First, consider the following questions:
- Do men and women with severe narcissism or borderline personality intend to cause such pain?
- Are they evil or do they “get off” on playing mind games and hurting people?
In a word: No. Continue reading
Source: Happiness: Can a Positive Attitude Make a Real Difference?
The Rumor: A positive outlook helps create positive experiences
Bad stuff happens. But is it possible that simply approaching life with a glass-half-full attitude can actually cause better things to occur?
The Verdict: Happiness is born of both positivity and negativity
Turns out a healthy dose of pessimism can, at times, be a good thing. A study published by the American Psychological Association says that two-thirds of pessimists lived longer and had healthier lives than more upbeat people. Continue reading
Source: Concussion triples or quadruples risk of suicide – Medical News Today
Concussion multiplies the long-term risk of suicide in adults, especially if it happens on the weekend, according to research published in the CMAJ.
Concussion symptoms abate quickly, but the long-term effects can be severe.
Suicide is the 10th most common cause of death in the US, with 41,149 cases in 2011, or 13 per 100,000 people, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). It is normally associated with a psychiatric illness, such as depression or substance abuse.
Concussion is the number one brain injury in adults, affecting around 4 million Americans each year. It is defined as “a transient disturbance of mental function caused by acute trauma.” Continue reading
Source: Parental depression lowers school grades – Medical News Today
Children whose parents are battling depression are at greater risk of doing badly in school, and a mother’s depression is more likely to affect a daughter, says research published online in JAMA Psychiatry.
Parental depression can have a detrimental effect on a child’s school grades.
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) estimate that depression affects 7.6% of Americans aged 12 years and older, 3% of whom have severe depressive symptoms.
Economically deprived individuals are 2.5 times more likely to experience depression, and the condition is more prevalent among women generally and in the 40-59-year age group. Continue reading
Source: Depression may pass from mothers to daughters – Medical News Today
Depression appears to be passed down from mothers to daughters, say researchers who have been looking at similarities in brain structures between generations. The research is published in the Journal of Neuroscience.
Similarities in brain structure suggest daughters may inherit depression from their mothers.
Around 8% of Americans aged 12 years and over are affected by depression. It is commonly found in both mothers and daughters, previous human studies have reported. Continue reading
Source: Major depression linked to disruption of brain’s emotional networks – Medical News Today
Different regions of our brain need to work simultaneously in order for us to process emotion. But according to new research, such regions are disconnected among individuals who experience multiple episodes of major depression.
Researchers found subjects who had experienced multiple episodes of depression showed disruption to the brain’s emotional networks.
Study coauthor Scott Langenecker, associate professor of psychiatry and psychology at the University of Illinois at Chicago (UIC), and colleagues publish their findings in the journal Psychological Medicine.
Major depression is one of the most common mental disorders experienced by Americans, affecting around 14.8 million adults in the US in any given year. Continue reading
Source: Why It’s So Hard to Love People Who Don’t Love Themselves | Psychology Today
Having written a couple of posts on the difficulty of loving others when you don’t love yourself (here and here), I want to turn my attention, below, to the struggles faced by the other person in such relationships. (If you consider yourself self-loathing, try to imagine that your partner is going through some of what I describe below.) Continue reading
Source: Is This the Missing Piece in the Happiness Puzzle? | Psychology Today
Authors have written so much about human happiness that bookstores can barely keep up with even the most popular offerings. Entire textbooks have been devoted to the topic and there are academic journals that publish nothing but happiness research. Yet one important piece of the puzzle of human happiness is almost entirely missing from all of these writings—consideration of our physical space. The places we live and the spaces we create have a lot to do with our contentment, happiness, and emotional well-being. Continue reading
Source: 7 Subtle Signs of Depression You Shouldn’t Ignore | Psychology Today
About one in 10 Americans experience depression at any given time, according to the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (link is external). Many people with depression don’t even know they have it. Depressive symptoms may range from mild to severe and they can vary greatly; symptoms are often attributed to fatigue, stress, or the aging process. But here are 7 subtle signs you shouldn’t ignore, in yourself or someone close to you: Continue reading
Source: The Destructive Power of Borderline Personality Disorder | Psychology Today
Self-harm and suicidal thoughts are a troubling part of many mental illnesses, but for those struggling with borderline personality disorder (BPD), the risk is extreme.
In fact, self-harm and suicide attempts are so prevalent in BPD that it is the only mental disorder that includes such behaviors as part of its diagnostic criteria. Almost 80% of those with BPD report a history of suicide attempts, and suicide deaths range between 8-10%. This rate is 50 times greater than that found in the general population, according to a 2014 analysis of BPD research by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA).
Then there is self-destructive behavior—cutting, burning, hitting, hair-pulling, head-banging, and skin-picking. More than three-quarters of those with BPD engage in at least one of these actions, with a 2008 study putting the number closer to 90%. The reasons vary and can overlap but most commonly include:
- An attempt to shift the pain from the mental to the physical;
- To feel something or “more real”;
- To express anger or frustration or, conversely, to keep emotions in check;
- As self-punishment;
- As a plea for attention or help.
Such self-harm classifies as nonsuicidal self-injury and doesn’t usually involve an intent to die. Instead, it becomes an attempt to use pain to deal with pain. Continue reading
Source: 4 Lifestyle Changes That Will Boost Your Mental Health | Psychology Today
When we seek help for a mental health condition, we can expect to hear about various medications and treatment options, but what’s often missing from the conversation is any talk of lifestyle changes. In a recent University of Illinois study (link is external), about half of those with symptoms of mental illness reported that they receive no wellness advice from their health care provider.
That’s a lamentable oversight because lifestyle changes—things as simple as nutrition and exercise (link is external)—can have a significant impact on quality of life, for any of us, but especially for those dealing with issues such as depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder and schizophrenia. They can also help minimize the development of risk factors that can lead to conditions like diabetes, cardiovascular disease, and hypertension, all of which are seen at higher rates in those with mental illness, the study noted. Continue reading
Source: 9 Mantras to Keep You Mentally Strong During Tough Times | Psychology Today
While it can be easy to be mentally strong when life is going well, your true strength becomes apparent through adversity. The loss of a loved one, a health problem, relationship issues, and financial troubles are just a few of the hardships most of us will face at one time or another.
The way you think about life’s inevitable obstacles affects your ability to cope with tough times. Developing a productive inner dialogue is one of the most productive ways mentally strong people keep building their mental muscle, and repeating positive, yet realistic affirmations can drown out the negative thoughts that can hold you back. Continue reading
Source: Cohabitation, Marriage Boost Women’s Mental Health
Living together or getting married provides young adults — especially women — with a boost to emotional health, a new study finds.
Researchers analyzed data from 8,700 Americans who were born between 1980 and 1984, and interviewed every other year from 2000 to 2010. Continue reading
Source: “How My Dog Saved Me From Myself” – BarkPost
In her memoir, Dog Medicine, Julie Barton recalls the darkest point in her life. A year out of college, she was struggling in the depths of depression. After receiving a panicked phone call, Julie’s mother took her from her Manhattan apartment and brought her back home to Ohio. Physiatrists, therapists, friends and family tried to help Julie, but she did not improve. Ultimately, a fateful decision would change the course of her life: Julie adopted a Golden Retriever puppy.
Read the full story here.
Source: 9 Ways You Can Improve Your Mental Health Today | Psychology Today
Mental health is much more than a diagnosis. It’s your overall psychological well-being—the way you feel about yourself and others as well as your ability to manage your feelings and deal with everyday difficulties. And while taking care of your mental health can mean seeking professional support and treatment, it also means taking steps to improve your emotional health on your own. Making these changes will pay off in all aspects of your life. It can boost your mood, build resilience, and add to your overall enjoyment of life Continue reading
Source: Studies Confirm “Sound Therapy” Heals Arthritis, Cancer, Tinnitus, Autoimmune Disease and More Using Vibrational Frequencies :: The JB Bardot Archives
Sound healing is the practice of using audio tones and vibrational frequencies to repair damaged tissue and cells within the body. It works on the basis that all matter is vibrating at specific frequencies, and sickness, disease, depression and stress causes human beings to vibrate at a lower frequency. Playing tones that promote healing, happiness and vitality will allow DNA strands to repair themselves, and several scientific studies have been conducted on the potential healing benefits of audio sound frequencies. Sound has been used as a healing tool for centuries, and is still regularly utilized by many different alternative healthcare centers. Tibetan singing bowels, tuning forks, drumming therapy, and even chanting are all used in sound therapy and many participants experience strong emotions during therapy sessions. Advocates of sound healing claim that it has the power to heal mental illness, arthritis, autoimmune disorders and can even shrink cancerous tumors. Learn about the different forms of sound healing and examine the evidence that supports its use as an alternative medical practice. Continue reading
To all appearances, Eleanor Longden was just like every other student, heading to college full of promise and without a care in the world. That was until the voices in her head started talking. Initially innocuous, these internal narrators became increasingly antagonistic and dictatorial, turning her life into a living nightmare. Diagnosed with schizophrenia, hospitalized, drugged, Longden was discarded by a system that didn’t know how to help her. Longden tells the moving tale of her years-long journey back to mental health, and makes the case that it was through learning to listen to her voices that she was able to survive.
At TED’s Full Spectrum Auditions, comedian Joshua Walters, who’s bipolar, walks the line between mental illness and mental “skillness.” In this funny, thought-provoking talk, he asks: What’s the right balance between medicating craziness away and riding the manic edge of creativity and drive?